Why Jesus Waits to Answer Your Prayer

As much as we wish it were otherwise, life has no easy answers to our struggles. Oh, I know, I know . . . God is the Answer. But what happens when the Answer doesn’t answer?

Why Jesus Waits to Answer Your Prayer

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Because God can stop our pain, we think He should. So we pray. And pray.

But nothing happens.

That’s what occurred with Mary and Martha. They sent a message to Jesus that their brother Lazarus lay sick. But instead of immediately traveling to Bethany, Jesus stayed right where He was beyond the Jordan River. When He finally did arrive, Lazarus had been dead four days.

In other words, Jesus had taken His sweet time showing up.

From what happened next, I see 3 lessons to help us understand why Jesus waits to answer our prayer.

What We Want from Jesus

“Lord, if You had been here,” Martha cried, “my brother would not have died” (John 11:21). When Mary later approached Jesus, she fell at His feet and echoed Martha’s grief, word for word, through bitter tears (John 11:32).

Their assumption? Because Jesus could have saved Lazarus, He should have. Pain often tempts us to view Jesus this way. We have pain and prayer should solve it.


But it wasn’t Jesus’ lack of concern that caused His delay. This Bible reveals that the exact opposite is true. He waited because of His love for the sisters and for Lazarus (see John 11:5-6).

He has his reasons

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What Jesus Wants for Us

As hard as we try, wrapping our minds around that seeming contradiction is still a struggle.

After all, it’s hard to feel God’s love when we’ve cried out to Him, perhaps for years, and He seems to ignore us. Our pain blurs what Jesus sees clearly.

Because Jesus waits to answer your prayer, you know He wants to give you more than relief. (Tweet that.)

Jesus saw what Mary and Martha couldn’t see through the jumble of their pain and prayer.

  • He knew what Lazarus’s death would produce—an opportunity for nonbelievers to witness a miracle.
  • Jesus knew that Mary and Martha would grow to understand that God loved them on a level that went deeper than simply removing their pain and answering their shortsighted request.

Those lessons apply to you as well.

3 Reasons Why Jesus Waits to Answer Your Prayer

  1. Because Jesus waits to answer your prayer, you know He wants to give you more than relief.
  2. Because Jesus wept, you can know He feels your pain, strengthening you with His presence along the path He in His sovereign will sees as best for you.
  3. He loves you enough to delay the answer and even to let you hurt—so that you will gain what you could not otherwise.

Jesus walks with you—and weeps—along the painful road that leads to death . . . but also to resurrection.

Question: How do you deal with God’s delay in answering prayer? To leave a comment, just click here.

Adapted from Wayne Stiles, “Mary and Martha: Waiting and Wondering,” The Wise and the Wild: 30 Devotions on Women of the Bible (IFL Publishing House: Plano, TX, 2010), 91-92.

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  • Gjohnsey

    am struggling with a chronic pain condition which affects my head and face ( trigeminal neuralgia, once known as the suicide disease), as I was crying out to the Lord one day  begging for relief, thinking that He did not understand, I received a very vivid image of Jesus in the Garden, agonizing to the point of excreting droplets of blood .He hears, knows, and sees our pain, and He experienced it as well. I was able to stand in that Garden a few years ago, He went to the Garden for me, and then died on the cross! I am not abandoned, pain continues and I am awaiting an appoinment with the Mayo Clinic. My Father will be with me there as well. Can not understand how you keep posting devotionals that apply to me, many thanks….

    • Wow, I am so sorry about your struggle. I can’t imagine that kind of chronic pain. How wonderful that you sense the Lord’s presence and comfort. I’m glad the blog encourages you. Thanks for telling me.

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  • Mabel

    Not very freaking well. I asked for something specific and I got it, but then I lost it. I have asked for a miracle, but the person I want to be with is talking to someone else. I still have faith that Jesus can help me. I do hope he comes through soon. I’m just so tired; I can’t take much more of this pain.

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  • olddon

    Always as we wait, we should pray as our Lord did in the Garden…”…not My will, but Your’s be done…” And your comment on the Resurrection is “primary” while enduring pain.” For without the resurrection, sickness, pain and physical death is a colossal indictment on Christianity. Praise God for His victory over death -both spiritual and physical!

    • So true, Don. All of our chips are on the resurrection. Thankfully, God promises it will happen to us because it happened to Christ. Thanks for your comment.

  • Isabella

    My name is Isabella, i am from USA i had little issues with my husband and he left home after we had quarrels, i miss him so very much. I have tried to reconcile with him but he went ahead to settle down with another lady who have been trying to still him away from me, she work in the same office with him.I told my friend about what i was going through and she said i don’t need to worry that there is powerful Priest who can help me prepare a spell to bring him back to me without much delay. I contacted Priest Ajigar and in just 4 days he really help me, we are back together again and also the kids are happy that their father is back home. I am so happy and would also advice you to contact his through his email: (priestajigarspells@live.com) i have experience his powerful spell is so real and genuine

    • I believe your happiness will be short-lived, Isabella, because the advice your friend gave you is contrary to God’s Word. When you find yourself back in the place of sadness and confusion, I hope you’ll look here to find a good church, and ask one of the pastors on staff what they recommend for you. They will give you counsel that matches God’s design for your life and will not contradict it. I am praying for you and your family, Isabella.