What Can You Do When You’re Not Sure What to Do?

One decision can help you choose what’s next.

You may feel stuck. At first, your situation looked great. It promised advantages, hope, joy, and happiness. It looked better than where you were, so you jumped. Now you’re not sure what to do.

What Can You Do When You're Not Sure What to Do?

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Turns out, it wasn’t the dream job, the ideal marriage, the best neighborhood, or the perfect church. It seems more like bait and switch.

It seemed the best decision, but now—you’re not so sure. You feel stuck.

What can you do when you’re not sure what to do?

Great Expectations

When expectations about what life “ought to be” go unmet for extended periods of time, our heart will want to drift into daydreams.

Longstanding bouts with tough circumstances cause the drift. Stuff like:

These and more offer the greatest temptations to daydream how great it would be to live in other “ideal” circumstances.

By Comparison

We’ll see some other person’s life and imagine that:

  • If we had what they had, then we wouldn’t feel the way we do.
  • If we only lived there, not here, then we would be a different person.
  • If my father would only . . . if my spouse would finally . . . if God would simply . . . then all would be well.

This thinking is nonsense. But we think it, don’t we?

By Comparison

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Good Questions

Hasn’t the Lord promised to care for our needs? And if he chooses to wait to do so, and to cause us to wait to receive them, might he have a reason?

Because he is God, he has the prerogative to determine what’s best for us—including keeping from us what we really, really want—if he deems it wise.

Daydreams, on the other hand, often dwell on lies. With very few exceptions, tough circumstances simply reveal the holes in our hearts, not the holes in our lives. Situations usually reveal the areas where we need to grow. Our problem isn’t our meager circumstances as much as it is our heart’s refusal to trust in God’s sovereignty.

Daydreaming is a longing to be out of the will of God. When we imagine another reality for ourselves, we set our minds on our interests and not on God’s. (As if we could ever imagine a reality that’s better for us than God can.)

What to Do Next

When you feel stuck and you don’t know what to do next—here’s what to do. Do all you can to discover the way of obedience. Find the “next right thing”—the path that honors God.

Then take it, regardless of the cost, and wait there for God.

Question: What’s your “next right thing”? To leave a comment, just click here.

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  • Michelle thick

    Thank you for the read. It was like you were talking right to me. I understand now were im at. Im excited now he is working in me. Just have to be still. I do need more work and he is trying to show me. But im not trusting and am frustrated in my situation. I will be obedient and know that he knows whats good for me, not me.
    Thank you
    God Bless

    • I’m so glad to hear that, Michelle! Thank you for staying the course and trusting our heavenly Father, even when you’re not sure the next step to take. You will not regret it.

  • Brian Dobler

    I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you and your pen, Wayne.

    • Thank you, Brian. Your words mean much to me. God bless!

  • You are blessed and awesome.

    • Thank you very much, Cindy! But you know, even we who are blessed struggled to trust God sometimes. We are all in this together. Thanks.

  • ARM BAR

    Another interesting topic Wayne , the problem is we don’t know God’s mind and how he acts,thinks and feels,but i’m groaning in pain right now,i hope He feels it too and act soon,because i have been waiting too long for His help,thank you Wayne.

    • I’m sorry for your pain— so sorry. I look forward, as you do, to the time when there shall be “no tears, or crying, or pain.”

  • Sylvester

    God often works outside the box in order to touch His children in special ways. When we go through one situation or the other and feel stuck, let’s take heart. He knows what’s best for us. He knows us more than we know ourselves. He wants to give us the expected end. Thanks for the message Wayne.

    • You’re exactly right, Sylvester. God sees the big picture and acts accordingly. Thanks for sharing your insight! God bless.